Pinned나에게(Dear Self): Photograph나에게, You are allowed to enjoy the moment. To look at the photographs and videos. To remember the way he felt. The way he kissed—the way he made you feel. You are allowed to keep the love in the photographs. Sometimes that is what life is about. The small moments…Dear Self1 min readDear Self1 min read
Pinned나에게(Dear Self): Letting Go of Values나에게, We all have our own set of values and standards that we hold ourselves to. They are principles you believe in, a point of view that you have high opinions of, your standards of how you live your life, and internalized ideologies that influence your judgment of what is…Dear Self1 min readDear Self1 min read
PinnedHiraeth: homesickness for a home to which you cannot return; a home which maybe never was.A house is a place where one lives. It provides shelter and protects you from the rain. It offers you a place to breathe. To let loose. To be free. But when does that house become a home? After you move all your stuff in? After you lived there for…Home3 min readHome3 min read
Pinned나에게 (Dear Self): What If?나에게, What if I answered the phone instead of letting it go to voicemail that day? Would that have been our last conversation? Would you have forgiven me for the past 10 years of distance and for cutting you out of my life? Would you have told me you still…Dear Self2 min readDear Self2 min read
Jan 1나에게(Dear Self): 2022 Reflections나에게, 2022 has been a whirlwind of ups and downs for you. You moved to your birth country. You lost another parent. You reached your goal of traveling to 30 different countries before turning 30. You experienced what it feels like to be alone in a country where you don’t…Letters To Myself2 min readLetters To Myself2 min read
Oct 24, 2022나에게 (Dear Self): Knowing When to Walk Away나에게, You are not replaceable. Don’t let anyone’s action determine your own self-worth. Their actions show their character and not yours. Take this time to feel all the emotions that are going on inside of your beautiful soul. Emotions are so complex and meant to be felt. It’s okay to…Dear Self2 min readDear Self2 min read
Jul 22, 2022나에게 (Dear Self): Ownership of Story & Healing Journey나에게, LOOK AT YOU! Look at how much you have changed. In one month, it is going to be a year since you moved to South Korea! Congratulations! You have grown in so many ways since you got here. That enthusiastic determined bright-eyed girl who first stepped off the flight…Self Love2 min readSelf Love2 min read
Jul 14, 2021So very well said and expressed.61Virginia HatleyThank you so much for your kind words.Thank you so much for your kind words. It means the world to me that you were able to connect to my story. I am so glad that your journey brought you closer with your sister and that you are having these conversations. Returning home to ourselves is a hard thing to do and being able to have converastions with others about it is vital to building a more informed community. Being an adopttee comes with a lot of emotional obstacles, but it is apart of our journey. It's something that we can share together and support one another. Thank you for sharing your story!1 min read1 min read
May 6, 2021An Adoptee’s Experience: Mother’s DayMother’s Day. a day of celebrating motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society. Mother’s Day. A day of celebrating motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society. A day that reminds me that I was abandoned by my birth mother. Since childhood, I have been…Adoption4 min readAdoption4 min read
Jan 5, 2021A Million Paper Cuts: A Poem about MicroaggressionsOn the train I check the news Another hate crime More attacks I get a paper cut. On the streets of NYC I hear men calling me “China Doll” “Be My Orderway Bride” Another paper cut. Walk through the doors Take a seat at my desk I look around Code Switch. Code Switch…Race2 min readRace2 min read
