Mother’s Day. a day of celebrating motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society.

Mother’s Day. A day of celebrating motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society. A day that reminds me that I was abandoned by my birth mother.

Since childhood, I have been…

Photo Credit: Septian Simon
Photo Credit: Septian Simon

On the train
I check the news
Another hate crime
More attacks
I get a paper cut.

On the streets of NYC
I hear men calling me
“China Doll”
“Be My Orderway Bride”
Another paper cut.

Walk through the doors
Take a seat at my desk
I look around
Code Switch. Code Switch…

Thank you so much for your kind words. It means the world to me that you were able to connect to my story.

I am so glad that your journey brought you closer with your sister and that you are having these conversations. Returning home to ourselves is a hard thing to do and being able to have converastions with others about it is vital to building a more informed community.

Being an adopttee comes with a lot of emotional obstacles, but it is apart of our journey. It's something that we can share together and support one another. Thank you for sharing your story!

Photo Taken by Stephanie McCabe

As a child, we are taught that birthdays are a day to celebrate. Many individuals will throw a party to acknowledge and toast the person who is now a year older. Most importantly, it is a day to be reminded of how loved we are by our friends and family.

A house is a place where one lives.

It provides shelter and protects you from the rain.

It offers you a place to breathe. To let loose. To be free.

But when does that house become a home?

After you move all your stuff in?

After you lived there for…

Photo of me at the Carrick a Rege Rope Bridge in Northern Ireland. Photo was taken in July 2018.

Everyone is unique in their own beautiful way. Our differences adds so much value to the world and allows us to learn from one another. In life, we grow and explore who we are. There comes a point in your life where you figure out your identity and begin to…

Kayla Kim Votapek

Korean Adoptee ❤ Stories about Race, Identity, Mental Health & Life. Website:

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